Resources to Strengthen Your Marriage

Books

1. Choosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start with We>Me
Debra Fileta

With compassion and clarity, licensed counselor and relationship expert Debra Fileta shows that when we can work through the struggles of marriage, we get to experience the joys! Learn about eight powerful choices that will encourage and equip you to take your marriage from average to exceptional and find astonishing survey results from thousands of singles and couples on topics like love and attraction, sex, conflict, and communication.

2. Boundaries in Marriage: Understanding the Choices That Make or Break Loving Relationships
Henry Cloud and John Townsend

Whether you're happy in your marriage and want to keep growing, or if you're struggling with increasing disconnection, Boundaries in Marriage will give you the tools you need to set healthy boundaries and strengthen—or even save—your relationship with your spouse. When couples learn to embrace personal responsibility and to respect each other’s freedom, love is allowed to thrive.

3. God, Sex, and Your Marriage
Dr. Juli Slattery

This resource provides a biblical framework to the practical challenges in sexual intimacy. God invites every couple to view their sexual relationship, including their greatest struggles, as an avenue to learn about the nature of His covenant love. It’s God's desire to make us more like Himself and sex within marriage is often a powerful training ground for godly character. That desire gives purpose and context to addressing pornography, healing from past wounds, sexual incompatibility, pursuing pleasure together, and forgiveness.

4. Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide to Reimagining Your Love Life
Debra Fileta

A unique, comprehensive guide to sexual intimacy for Christian couples in every season of marriage. Psychology, theology, research, and stories combine to make Married Sex a resource for you and your spouse to discover practical, biblically informed answers to your questions about intimacy as you find more satisfaction in your marriage than ever.

5. Torn Asunder: Recovering From an Extramarital Affair
Dave Carder

Torn Asunder sorts through the factors that contribute to infidelity and then maps out a recovery process for both partners. The book answers questions like: Why did this happen? We didn’t actually sleep together, so is it still an affair? Can I trust my spouse again? Should I reveal a secret affair? What if my spouse doesn’t want me back? What do we tell the kids? The process is not easy, but it is realistic, and with God's help it can work. There is hope for marriages to be healed.

Podcasts/Videos/Website Resources

6. Married With Benefits Podcast 
Shaunti Feldhahn

Married With Benefits dares to ask the questions we know you’re thinking, but just aren’t sure who to ask. Researcher and author of Secrets of Sex and Marriage, Shaunti Feldhahn teams up with Family Life’s Brian Goins for four great seasons, based on the research in Shaunti’s books.

7. Authentic Intimacy - God’s Design for Intimacy and Sexuality
Juli Slattery

Practically everyone, young and old, single and married, has experienced pain, shame, and confusion related to sexuality. Clinical psychologist, Juli Slattery provides resources to help men and women understand God’s purpose and redemption related to their sexuality.

8. Talk to Me Podcast
Debra Fileta

Join Debra Fileta, a licensed professional counselor, national speaker, and bestselling author for an authentic, on-air, counseling-style show where she talks to people about how they are really doing.Each episode is a raw, real, authentic conversation showcasing the best of counseling and psychology rooted in God’s Word, meant to show that we are all on a journey of healing—mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and relationally, together.

9. Adultery/Affair Recovery
Dave Carder

Never Say Never, because just when you think your marriage is safe from adultery is when you may be the most vulnerable. An affair can happen when you least expect it. Many resources are available here to help walk you through the healing process.

10. Blended and Step Family Resources
Family Life Resources

This website provides timeless wisdom and practical help and hope for blended families and those who love them. FamilyLife Blended® provides bibically-based resources that help prevent re-divorce, strengthen stepfamilies, and help break the generational cycle of divorce.